Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. Helen Keller
Risk comes in all shapes and sizes real and / or perceived. I’ve done a lot of things in my life that others would consider risky and I’ve got lots of different X-rays that tell me perhaps they were right. However to me right here right now is my greatest risk.
Embarking on a new and exciting chapter in my Leadership Coaching career. Over the last few years I’ve been up skilling which in our modern world everyone has to do, both because there is so much new information out there but also to consistently understand better the world that surrounds us. I’m fundamentally an equestrian coach and as such have long had the job of unifying a speaking partner with a non speaking partner into at least a working relationship and hopefully so much more of a bound that will see them through scary times and amazing times.
Writing a blog and letting more of the world into my life and thoughts. It’s not that I think perhaps underneath it all I’ll find out I’m just one more crazy self opinionated person on the World Wide Web. But that I’ll go down as one more boring person who didn’t even have a capacity to help one other life for the better. So that is my fear that one of my values which is to help and improve others lives maybe it’s just a big fancy full dream.
However I can’t find that out with out putting myself out there so here goes. One of my goals through these blogs is to let people who are suffering from pain, anxiety, loss or fear, that you’re not alone. One of the first things you lose during these thoughts or while suffering unending pain is a sense of time and once time has been stolen so all your left with is a clock face which has a stuck hour hand and a minute hand that has fallen to the bottom of the glass casing, if you can make out the tiny second hand at all you’ll notice it’s going back and forth on the same two numbers over and over again. Your now trapped in a loop of wishing time would pass and wishing it would stop so the pain/anxiety/loss/fear can stop with it. You now don’t have a reference point for day or night except levels of exhaustion. Time’s thief has a close friend and with his mask firmly pulled down he gives you the gift of isolation even in a room full of well wishes you can still feel the pull of empty loneliness. Recovery is a mix of sole efforts responsibilities and a team who are aligned to your goals and values. They have strengths where you are weak and allow you to expand so that long term it’s no longer your weakness. No one person can be good at everything, growth allows us to strengthen areas or come to terms with them and adapt. Learning to be aware of the weather pattern (people) around you and how their actions, deeds and language directly effect your recovery and well being.
I’m not going to lecture you and say “Take a teaspoon of cement and harden up.” There will be times, when we all need to find the strength to keep going and not give up, find the effort to open your eyes and continue. But the thing I most want to help you with is finding the resources within yourself and around you so you have the tools to hang in there for another minute maybe even an hour or day until that storm passes and then you can go looking for those two thief’s. What you do to them please don’t write and let me know as then I may have to appear at your trail as a hostile witness for the defence. We want to shine a very very bright light on those two guys. Not whack them over the head and bury them down deep in the forest, otherwise we’ll possibly get a knock on the door from one of their other close friends and once he comes inside his black dog tends to leave paw prints literally all over everything and no-one wants that.
Every day you have little forks in the road little choices to be made. I hope though these upcoming blogs to show you that your not alone and that there are tools we can all use to help us stand for what we want to stand for not the label or incident that is biting merciless at our soul right now. You are more then the sum of one moment or trial. You may feel stuck but growth can return. It maybe different it may involve challenging times to find your equilibrium again so you can determine your goals and values. Be the best you that is possible, honouring your past and directing you towards sunshine